Seriously speed up your self-love
This challenge is amazing! While I was doing all the research and reading for the Irresistible Self-Love Series, I came across this book on Amazon. I loved it right away and got in touch with the author, Lita, to find out more about her journey and how she wrote such a cool book.
Lita blogs about fitness, body image, and wellness over on her gorgeous Tumblr blog, Back on Pointe. She’s been involved in the dance world and all the body pressure that brings, and is now trying to help others to feel the safety and beauty of their own bodies.
Her book, “The Love Yourself Challenge: 30 Days to Self-Love“is full of real things you can do to practice self-love. It’s super easy to read and includes helpful stuff like recipes, some worksheets (which you know I LOVE), and some really heartfelt tips and advice.
So, after coming across her book on Amazon, I got in touch and asked her to come on the blog to talk about her own self-love evolution. Here’s my email interview with Lita from Back on Pointe!
Me: Why did you consciously start a self-love journey?
Lita: I can’t remember the last time I had a normal relationship with food. I grew up poor, moving all the time, starting at new schools all the time, and I also had anxiety and OCD from a young age. These things meant I wasn’t in the best shape physically.
I binge ate in secret through my last couple years in high school, and I went off to college unhealthy and unhappy. In college, pursuing an education in modern dance, my messed-up eating turned into restricting my calories. I swung to the other end of unhealthy, but luckily had friends who encouraged me to eat and helped me stay strong as I tried to get back to healthy.
After going through all of this, I knew I had to make a change. I couldn’t strong-arm my body into what I wanted it to be; I had to approach it with love for what it is. I began reading up on health at every size and the body acceptance movements and worked to eliminate ED behaviors from my life. Now I encourage others to do the same!
Me: What does self-love mean to you?
Lita: To me, it means a sense of peace. Knowing that your body is yours, that it is just fine, that it wants you to be okay too. We’re not at war with our bodies, and self-love means putting down the weapons you’ve wielded against yourself.
Me: Why do you think self-love is important for women struggling with unwanted eating?
Lita: It’s so important because if you can love yourself and your body how it is now, you don’t get so hung up on all the little stuff: a stray hair, an extra pound, etc. Self-love allows you to embrace yourself and also make yourself better. It was an act of self-love for me to eat more. It is an act of self-love to take the medications you need. Self-love means that you know your body needs healthy foods and nutrients, but maybe your soul needs a bowl of ice cream. It’s about finding the balance that supports your whole being.
Self-love allows you to embrace yourself and also make yourself better. It was an act of self-love for me to eat more. It is an act of self-love to take the medications you need. Self-love means that you know your body needs healthy foods and nutrients, but maybe your soul needs a bowl of ice cream. It’s about finding the balance that supports your whole being.
Me: What has been your biggest struggle with unwanted eating and self-love?
Lita: I am still so obsessed with my weight. I no longer weigh myself, but having so frequently been in image-focused areas (theatre, dance, photography, etc.), I am dealing with lingering issues about my body. I’ve been participating in a daily selfie challenge and hanging out with very body-positive friends to help combat my body anxiety.
Me: Tell us about some super actionable ways you do self-love in your life.
Lita: Take care of yourself! That’s the biggest, vaguest one I can offer. If your friends all want to go out but you’re feeling overwhelmed, stay in. If you feel like your romantic relationship is no longer serving you, end it. If you feel strong and amazing after lifting weights, go do it.
Me: What inspired you to write the Love Yourself Challenge?
Lita: The biggest theme of my blog is “balance.” I write a lot about working out, but I try to also give people resources on nutrition, mental health, etc. I was getting a lot of messages from people who so clearly hated themselves, couldn’t see themselves objectively. People always got very excited over the workout challenges I made, so I decided to set up something similar, but to teach skills to love yourself and take it easy. It was so popular, I made it into a book!
Me: How is your life different with self-love than without it?
Lita: I appreciate myself so much more now. Rather than focusing on what I lack, I focus on what I have, on what I can offer, and on what I can do.
Me: Do you have any fav self-love books, tools, or resources?
Lita: Tumblr! I know I’m obsessed with Tumblr, but there are so many great blogs and people to find on there. All you need to do is search!
So obviously, Lita is one cool lady! You can check out her blog and contact her there.